Wednesday, July 07, 2004
Men are from earth, women are from earth, deal with it!
There's an interesting debate on Heather's blog that I need to transcribe to my forum. The heated discussion is about whether romantic relationships are like bank accounts, i.e., the more you deposit the more you can withdraw. The original quote comes from the dude who wrote Men Are From Mars...
"There's this perspective of looking at relationships like bank accounts, and being with a person, you're constantly making deposits into their bank account: depositing love, trust, memories, all those good things...and the bank account grows, and all it takes is a big fat withdrawal, and now you're overdrawn...."
I disagreed with the premise and wrote the following response:
"Relationships do not work in a logical way. It doesn't follow the traditional theory of the more you deposit, the more you can withdraw. Sometimes it's the opposite. The people who have the best relationships are just lucky and at times tactical, but have nothing to do with their diligence or emotional investment."
It's funny how this debate is divided along the gender line. Most guys tend to agree with my theory and girls think that the quote is accurate. The whole thread can be viewed here (be sure to read the comments).
I like this debate but I don't think we're hearing enough female voices. Plus some guy threw in the whole ATM thing which messed up the whole thing. This discussion should be resumed in a more civilized and intellectual manner. Tell me what you think.
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"There's this perspective of looking at relationships like bank accounts, and being with a person, you're constantly making deposits into their bank account: depositing love, trust, memories, all those good things...and the bank account grows, and all it takes is a big fat withdrawal, and now you're overdrawn...."
I disagreed with the premise and wrote the following response:
"Relationships do not work in a logical way. It doesn't follow the traditional theory of the more you deposit, the more you can withdraw. Sometimes it's the opposite. The people who have the best relationships are just lucky and at times tactical, but have nothing to do with their diligence or emotional investment."
It's funny how this debate is divided along the gender line. Most guys tend to agree with my theory and girls think that the quote is accurate. The whole thread can be viewed here (be sure to read the comments).
I like this debate but I don't think we're hearing enough female voices. Plus some guy threw in the whole ATM thing which messed up the whole thing. This discussion should be resumed in a more civilized and intellectual manner. Tell me what you think.
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